You have to be awarded that special honour by one of the mods.
As to this thread, a messed up school is one where children come out with lack of disciple and general respect, or any kind of responsibility. Also where the staff are incompetent at discipline and teaching in general. The first school may have been strict, and the no-shoes may have been over the line but if the kids came out knowing something worthwhile and with respect for their elders then that can only be a good thing. Unfortunately the chutzpa level in many yeshivish schools today is way out of hand.