When a girl or boy has been in Shidduchim for a while, they often get a shem from others, like:
quiet,
dumb,
selfish,
materialistic,
boring,
loud,
no common sense,
not serious to get married,
no personality,
no sense of humor,
too choosy,
thinks they’re it,
nebby,
weird, etc.
and that unfortunately lessens their chances of getting people to work for them.
I heard that there was a Shiur lately discussing this issue.
The wagging tongues offering these descriptions kill!