JMH,
If you’re referring to post chasunah, there are plenty. Pre-chasunah, relatively few. And my reference (glad you picked up on it) is a valid one, because people do tend to associate with like-minded and like-acting friends. So “your circles” is not a fair reference point. And I reiterate that I personally admire someone who is able to learn seriously while holding down a job. Your lumping me with the other posters was unfair.