koachshtika well said
umm you are a woman.; woman can look deeper than looks. if a guy had a wife whose looks he hated as much as you hate your husbands looks (which sounds more than a little dysfunctional if you ask me) he would soon be looking elsewhere (if you know what I mean). That’s assuming he marries her in the first place which has to mean he seriously suppressed his instincts.
Point I’ve been trying to make: men think differently than woman do about the opposite gender.