Well, I have never had experience with a typical Chassidishe “beshow: but since the young couple may only see each other one or two times, i would assume it would be prudent on the part of the parents to ascertain that this young man or woman has all the qualities they are looking for in a spouse for their child. Which are of course, middos, middos,and middos. I also assume yichus ranks high on the list amongst chassidishe families Basically the parents are “making the decision” for their child based on the fact that they know their child better than the young man or lady knows himself, since this area is very new to them, the parents with age old wisdom and life experience take the responsibility upon themselves to make most of the decisions so that all thats left on the beshow is to determine if the personalities “shtim:” its not that much different than litvish circles except that litvish cirlcles put alot more “faith: in their children to “develop a relaationship” before marriage, whereas chassidishe ones are trusting that their parents know what’s best for them.
