More 2: so then what are you saying? That some guy whom you have heard and believed lashon hara about is dating your “top” cousin to the point where they are almost engaged, and now that you made the decision for your cousin that really he is not a good person (again lashon hara) you feel obligated to break it before the world collapses and you get blamed because your personal reputation is marred by your cousin? Sounds to me like you should visit someone.
