Choppy:
You are so wrong it is pitiful. I do not fault rabbonim for their intentions. They mean well. But, as another commenter here noted, the average Rov is hopelessly uninformed about the entire subject. I cannot even describe the horrors I witnessed firsthand from well meaning rabbonim in cases involving addictions, marital problems, and exactly this question of husbands on the internet. It is frightening to place faith in the uninformed. I am a really nice guy, but do not ask me to repair your car, plumbing, or do electrical work. Nor do I pasken shailos. I am not qualified. The average Rov is not qualified to practice the counseling profession. That is a fact that is not debatable. Some accumulate some experience over time, and may be perhaps better than others. Still others undergo training. But the woeful situation of marital problems submitted to the average Rov is too painful to watch.
There are good therapists, and there are bad ones. Many are pushed to practice in areas outside of their specialty, and they can actually do damage. But the professions are generally safe in guiding their flocks to maintain ethical codes that require them to stick with their areas of expertise and refer those outside them to others.
Your broad brush about therapists is simply untrue. With the greatest of respect, I would say that most rabbonim are not qualified to counsel a marriage in trouble, nor addictions, nor other psychological problems. I know they wish to help, and I am a firm believer that the Torah has the answers. But we have not been zocheh to find specific directions in the heilige Torah. That is why we are told, ???? ???? ???? ????? ??????.