Logician, yes, it’s so nice to have a respectful conversation with our different perspectives. I find it pleasantly enriching. And denial is never a good thing. I wouldn’t consider my perspective denial, though. Using my perspective, I am very much aware of the situation. I am just channeling my mind into realizing that it is for my good, and therefore, I may be able to get through it without suffering. I agree that being in denial of one’s emotional state in unhealthy. But if I really, emotionally, am not feeling pained, then I’m not denying it. I mean, I AM denying it entry into my being, but I am not denying that I am feeling it, because I’m not. So I think there is a difference there.
Hmm, so about missing the plane, I do see what you mean. You aren’t referring to the frustration, but to the possible effects of missing the plane, such as being late to a meeting, missing a wedding, etc. So for those types of things, yes, it is very possible, and likely, that G-d intends for us to feel the pain of missing these events, but at the same time, using my perspective works equally well on those. There was obviously a good reason why I had to miss that wedding, or be late to that meeting. I may not understand that reason, but I believe 100 percent that it’s there. It’s even possible that the reason was simply to make me feel the pain of missing such an event, and that pain was necessary. But, if I miss that wedding, and even so, understand that G-d had a good reason for me missing it, and it was for my best, that would greatly ease the pain, and possibly erase it. Does that mean that causing me pain couldn’t have been the reason? I don’t know. I may never know the reason. But I DO know that I eased my pain, and that helps greatly.
No One Mourns, I’m sorry too.