This is one of my all time favorite vorts (which I’ll be saying at my Bro-In-Law’s sheva Brachos)
The Passuk says Ki Yikach….V’Hayah Im Lo Simsa Chein B’Einav
also another passuk says Ki Yikach….U’Saneiah
the passuk is teaching us a fundamental yesod, if you’re looking for a wife in a way of kicha (scrutinizing your purchase, like a lot of people do when they buy a car or a house)(the wife is too short (clearing throat)) then this will happen, either getting a divorce or hating her.
however there is a passuk in Mishlei, Matzah Isha Matzah Tov
If you look at your wife as a metziah (not interested in fine detaills, like all metziahs) then all you would find is tov
(it’s interesting to note that by ki yikach it says the passuk says matzah bah ervas davar)