I think a large part of the problem is that guys get redt many girls at a time, from many different shadchanim, sometimes 3-4 girls at a time from the same shadchan. This leaves many girls “hanging” while a few guys are “looking into things”. Perhaps the girls should get the names of the guys first, and once a girl says yes, the onus on the guy to say either yes or no, is concrete, not just “i’m looking into it”.
