This is a Machlokes between the Gedolim.
Rav Miller and others like him hold that the woman should be at home, and the husband should be the breadwinner and king of the house.
The proponents of Kollel (such as the current Roshei Yeshiva in Lakewood) hold that the woman should be the breadwinner and king of the house, and the man should be in Kollel.
Both are valid Jewish Hashkafos, and one should speak to a Rov and look at all the angles to decide which is best for their Yiddishkeit.