Obaminator- I can see your point of view, but I believe it goes both ways: Any good guy is more than willing to give up a little learning for her comfort. And if a girl knows that a guy is spending time and a little learning to come to HER for a date so that she will be more comfortable, I think she will appreciate it.
As a side point, I don’t think derech eretz is bound to Torah alone. I think it applies to everything. And making someone feel more comfortable is included.