There’s definitely someone out there for everybody- A bas kol called it out 40 before you were conceived
Someone can turn down their “bashert” for reasons that they consider legitimate.
I’m not advocating giving up. As Mod 80 said, if someone wants it enough, she’ll be”H find someone with good middos with whom she can build a good Jewish home.
I think too many singles, both men and women (but more women, just because of the numbers), are waiting for someone who seems perfect (or almost perfect) and are not willing to settle for someone who is not perfectly compatible, even though with some work, they could have a successful marriage.
I think “wants it enough” doesn’t just mean that someone desperately wants to get married; plenty of singles feel that way yet sadly remain single. I think “wants it enough” means that the person is willing to marry someone (with good middos, of course), even if the bells aren’t ringing, and work hard together to build a home.