I don’t think I am bashing. If I have an “attachment” to weight, it is because I successfully lost serious weight, so I don’t really have as much sympathy for people who don’t.
Offen a Rashi that you didn’t lose weight. HOW DARE YOU ARGUE WITH CHAZAL!
On a more serious note, the most critical thing for a guy dating is that he be attracted to the girl. Without it their marriage is doomed.
ZeesKite: The gedolim disagree with you, what can I say.