i don’t know how old you are, but if you have married friends, call them! i know very few people who were completely redt by pure shadchanim. sometimes, a friend would think of the idea and have a shadchan redt it. hishtadlus, doesn’t necessarily mean going to shadchanim – just tell EVERYONE what you’re looking for, so when they bump into the guy, they’ll immediately think of you. good luck!
