Ben-Levi……
I don’t understand your comment that we are being told the Torah is outdated? Didn’t the Torah provide for divorce by giving us Hilchos Gittin? Yes, it should be rare and not taken lightly, but it is not contrary to the Torah. Years ago children with learning dissabilities or Autism were just “slow”, but B’H we have made inroads where we can properly help these children and there is less of a stigma involved. Is divorce perfect? No, and it should be a last resort. However, if the situation warrants it should be done. Perhaps we as a people are beginning to realize that not every circumstance that used to be looked down upon shouldn’t be and we are more readily acceptable of those who are subjected to it.