I don’t know what all the fuss is over here. I personally think the girls are so much pickier than guys these days. Yes, guys will nix shidduchim easier because they have more options before going out. However, I believe, from speaking to all my friends that so many girls say no once they actually go out for such immature reasons. The guy blinks the wrong way and bamm! He can expect a no!
A friend of mine was recently on a date with a girl from out of town. He took her out to eat and spent over 100 dollars on each of the first 2 dates. He is one of the nicest and thoughtful friends of mine. I would want him to marry my sister in a second. Anyway, he didn’t buy her anything for the trip home. He did not drop her at the airport but rather at a cuz’s house a few hours before her flight and therefore didn’t think of it.
She told the Shadchan that she had a nice time and thought he was a great guy. However it was very selfish that he didn’t bring her a care package for return trip!! And therefore she did not wish to continue. Goodbye. Now you tell me? Would a boy EVER say no for such a silly judgement??
I heard so many similar stories, I can go on for a while. . .
I have had girl’s say such crazy things to me on dates. But, I always try so hard to look past it, and see their true qualities anyway. Or see if they may have simply acted under pressure or if I misinterpreted their words etc. . .
I think girls have to give the guys more of a chance, and not bicker over petty things.
I think it’s time to turn the table around and ask the girl’s to chill out and give things a chance to play out.
(Let the barrage begin. . . I’m ducking but ready. . .)
(And no, I’m not new2thescene, that’s just my screen name. . .)