Reply To: pre paying shadchanim

in todays day and age money speaks louder than words.if the shadchan knows the girls father is loaded those girls are a priority on her/his list.we are comfortable thank gd but we are not up there with the 50 most wealthy frum families.i had one shadchan ask me to email her my daughters seminary class list(while my daughter was in sem) so she could have a look and see the whos who in the class. i was so naive.i thought i would get my daughters name on her list by doing her this favor and so would have a top shadchan looking out for my daughter. forget it-never heard from her,she never replied to emails,and has never redd my daughter a single shidduch.i think im beginning to sound like a whiner,kvetch so this is it for me.i know everything will work out the right way in the right time its just frusterating.