Yeedle, the New York community has had problems with this behavior on every issue that has come up. People are afraid to speak up, afraid to make a fuss. Torah U’Mesorah’s in-yeshiva counseling program got started because twenty-some years ago no parent would take a child for counseling for fear of social disapproval. One boy was depressed and his parents did nothing out of fear. The boy ended by r”l taking his own life. This tragedy shocked some rabbanim into taking quiet action. That generation seems to be gone, though. The current generation of leaders and mechanchim contain far too many people who would rather see children harmed than make a public fuss. That’s why we have frum people going to the media – within the community things are suppressed. I don’t like to give specific names, etc. in the CR but all we need to do is read the newspapers.
I hope things are different in the UK>