You’re right poppa; when the kids start to suffer, the decision to work becomes a priority. But why wait till you’re cracking under the strain? Or worse, why wait till your wife / parents / inlaws are cracking under the strain?
Plus, by the time this wake up call rings, hubby is close to 30? 32? has no training, and is probably 5-7 years away from replacing his wife’s salary.
Unless he expects her to keep working. But if she can hold down 2 jobs (work and house duties) why can’t he? (work and learning after work)
The bigger issue is, its become mandatory (at least in the circles I revolve in) to follow this track, wether you like it or not, whether you can afford it or not.
And that complusion needs to change.