“WIY: why not look for a guy who has a degree who is serious about learning, that way you get everything you want (granted he may not be as externally “yeshivish” as a full learne)?”
The person said what they did because I do need a Talmid Chacham (at least someone who can say over divrei Torah easily), due to my family background and love of learning. OTOH I feel like I’m asking to much to ask for someone who is both a Talmid Chacham and has a parnasa. It’s important to me to be a good wife and mother, I don’t think I can do that if parnasa is on my shoulders.
charliehall: yes but they mean well, and there may be a kernel of truth to what he’s saying, or it wouldn’t bother me.
pba: Yes there are 🙂
oomis: thanks but when you are raised that the best way is to be in learning, it’s hard to face another option.