Respect is a two-way street, you get back what you put in.
There is NOBODY who deserves more respect than another person. We were all born B’Tzelem Elokim. Brains and money are granted by Hashem. If you abuse the good that was given by Hashem, He will give your gifts to someone more worthy.
If parents and community elders don’t respect the voice of the younger crowd, and insist on my way or the highway, THEY WILL BE DISRESPECTED. It’s the metzius of the world. PLUS, CHUTZPAH WAS RAMPANT BACK IN THE DAYS I GREW UP, SO IT’S NOT A NEW PHENOMENON LIKE YOUR PARENTS CLAIM!”
Asking how to “Build the middah of respect” is in essence asking, “How do we get people to accept the abuse dished out to them and silence them?”