artchill:trust me,i know more about abuse than i want to know.and honestly,i don’t see myself forgiving the abuser anytime soon.but some people say they can forgive(and they may be given credit for that).i personally judge “forgivability” by the degree of damage control.too much damage with zero attempt to repair?impossible.BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON HAS NOT”MOVED ON”.IT MEANS A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF PAIN STAYS.KIND OF LIKE A WOUND THAT HEALS WELL– BUT LEAVES A SCAR FOREVER.
