It is my experience that after a while you get to know your wife
and know her reaction to what you say. for example,
if you would tell your wife shprintze, “you know, yankels
garden looks nice”, she’d say “what’s so nice about it?”
“it’s too gepatchket, & I heard he owes the gardner a mint?”
or if you’d mention something about your great aunt she’d say, “that mach…” you know to avoid such comments and discussions. that’s my point.