shlomozalman, 100%, people make a mistake and there’s really two “types” of bashert. There’s a type that is they’re ruchniyus “partner” that they will grow … and then there’s “that was sooo bashet”. I was told by a choshuve rav, a person can marry their bashert and have sholom bayis problems, and a person can “miss’ their bashert and have unbelievable shalmo bayis. Basically, shalom bayis has nothing to do with basherts.
