yentish – “if a WOMAN CAN tell that another woman is wearing a shaitel than its muttar. note that its if another woman can tell, cuz men usually cant tell anyway the difference if the shaitel is very natural.”
I’m not sure why you think the difference between a good shaitel or a bad shaitel is if another woman can tell its fake. Isn’t the whole issur for a man to see a married woman’s hair? Either those that a man can’t tell are fake should be no good, or they should all be good. I don’t see any valid position in the middle.
basmelech – “I think that although covering one’s hair with a natural looking sheitel is technically not ossur as far as hair covering is concerned, it may be ossur for mar-as ayin, that it looks like one’s hair is not covered, and also if it is so eye catching that it makes men want to look at a woman, then it is an issue of lack of tsnius. Just like one shouldn’t wear clothing that make a man look at a woman, her sheitel should also not be attention getting.”
Well said, that is my view on the issue as well.
oomis1105 – “For all people who think that eye-catching is the issue in tznius, there are plenty of very tzniusdig women who are eye-catching and attention-getting for other reasons: a) They are dressed all in black b)they have a LOT of kids with them c)they are obese (that goes for their husbands, too) d) they are trying to show how tzniusdig they are – it backfires. You get the idea.
Eye-catching is a very ambiguous expression, it can mean many things.”
Please. Do you honestly believe that being obese or having alot of kids is a breach of tzniyus? (Oh, and how does dressing in black attract attention?)
“People are tzniusdig or not, but other people will look if they want to look, no matter what others are doing or not doing.”
True, if a woman is tzniusdig and men look anyway then its not her problem. However, if she doesn’t dress and act properly and men look, she is going to have to give a din v’cheshbon.