“As for a wife putting themselves out a bit for the sake of what their husband’s love, that is a two way street and husbands have to do the same for their wives. Maybe moreso in this type of situation because they should be showing hakaros hatov, gratitude and appreciation for all the time and opportunity their wives gave them while the wives carried their responsibility of being mepharnes the family and allowed them the luxury of learning Torah. “
This was so good, I had to post the entire paragraph. And yes, at some point, choosing to sit and learn when your family is in dire need of your earning a parnassah IS a luxury. You can always learn early in the morning, on your breaks, while commuting by train (not by car, because gas is more expensive), and late at night AFTER you have helped take care of your own kids, spent some real time with them, and reminded your wife of why she wanted to marry you in the first place.