lesschumras-
That’s all fine when you respond that you are following your rav. Until then everyone has the right to speak up and voice their opinion and the opinion of their rav to say that what you are doing is wrong. That is the mitzvah of tochacha. But of course you have the right to respond that you are following your own rav. And she would certainly agree that you have that right. No one is out to get you here.