In the section on shidduchim someone said that part of the problem with shidduchim was that (not an exact quote, but the basic idea of they said was) “the women went out into the world and learned to have minds of their own and the mothers of the boys could not manipulate them they way they used to be easily manipulated”.
Saying they “had minds of their own” strongly implies it was good for the girls to go out into the secular world and get some ‘sophistication’ that the boys did not have so they would not be “manipulated” or have to ‘look up to the men going out to work and earning the money” as it used to be in the old days.
And yet this outside world is exactly what is being complained about that is brought into the home, by the internet.
So which way is it?
Is it good to go out and become “sophisticated” as they praise the girls for doing or is it the bane of the frum community and harbinger of it’s destruction?