kiruvwife, I agree, I think they’re all pretty fair questions except these:
2)Did the family eat dinner together during the week or just on shabbos?
It doesn’t say anything about the family, most families that have grown children like my own, barely even see each other during the week. I’m in college at night, my brothers are in yeshiva…You can’t really judge a family by that
4)Do they live within their means?
No offense, but whose business is that? Like my relative used to drive by the boy’s house to see what the outside looked like and if they upkept the garden! Like hello who cares!!