I know many of you won’t agree with me on this, but in my opinion the first criteria is if the guy is someone you respect or not.
That’s all I was looking for; someone who was kind and honest, someone I could respect.
If he wanted to learn full time and was willing to sacrifice for it then I was willing to put in extra hours to make it work. If he valued his learning but was not on the level to give up on gashmius (and he was open about that) and wanted to work, then I respect that also.
Of course the guy will be nice to you on a date, but you also have to look at how he treats others cuz that’s how he’ll be treating his wife a few years after they get married.
Did he block someones driveway when he came to pick you up?
Did he take up two parking spots?
Did he leave enough room for the person in front of him and behind him to leave?
Does he respect other drivers on the road?
Did he adequately tip the parking attendant/ taxi driver/ waitress and thank them?
When he talks about others (friends, teachers, relatives) is it in a positive way?
Believe it or not- when I was teaching and one kid would use inappropriate language to another kid- more often than not they said that they heard their father using those words to their mother.
I might have ended up marrying a type of person I never knew existed when I started dating, but he is always polite to everyone and he is a great role model for our kids.