1- think about why it’s bothering you- it’s supposed to…
2- kill a guy or make him think about why (and how) he’s living on this earth?
And- please do us all a favor and cut the “sucker” idea already. It’s driving me insane that you think any sort of acceptation of mussar or criticism is automatically for suckers. That’s extremely narrow minded- and I know you consider yourself open-minded.
(If you just nodded your head and did whatever anybody and everybody suggested- yes, I’d call you a sucker. But like I’ve said- you don’t exactly take this sitting down.)