veyatziv- The level of self restraint that you showed was admirable. You are right to coerce someone to give you a contribution is ganifta. When someone invites you into their home, at least you can exhibit a modicum of derech eretz and kavod for the bal tzeddka. After all as a Meshulach you are an Ambassador from a Tzeddka orginization, and the way the home owner is treated (from their point of view) gives either a good or bad impression of the integrity of the Tzeddeka Organization.
