For me, attending the funeral just meant taking a fifteen-minute bus ride, and I’m grateful that I live in E”Y and have access to this kind of stuff.
BS”D
You are grateful that you can go to levayas?????????
Why go? To make YOURSELF feel like you are doing something?
The soldiers’ families do not need you there; you could spend the time learning or volunteering or just living your life. The soldiers are private people who were killed in performing government mandated service. Their families are private people. They don’t necessarily need or want you there in their moments of horrible grief.