YYA> Gedolei Yisroel care about everyone more than you and I do. That doesn’t stop them from taking the course they are taking now.
Look, from studying these issues, it is clear that there are multiple legitimate views, and multiple communities that had different legitimate attitudes. I think you agree with this. I can’t tell who is right (and most likely each group is sometimes right, or all are right for certain people, under certain conditions).
But I know for sure who is not right – those who (on either side) claim that their position is Torah Moshe l’Sinai and the opposite are apikoresim. I am afraid this camp is pretty large.
A recent anecdote – I attended recently several lectures by an inspiration and very cheerful speaker. I noticed that his speech was very charedi when listeners were mostly charedim, but when the listeners were less insular, he would show his feelings towards IDF and other non-charedi things. I was not sure where he actually stands until this: he made an interesting drush, and I came up to him after, thanked for an interesting idea and suggested an idea from R Soloveitchik that has an implication that supports his drush. He suddenly stopped his cheerful smile and replied “I had older sources” and turned away. So much for love of Toirah.