What you think the Charedi attitude would be regarding the army and refusers if the roles were reversed?
In other words, let’s say Israel was a Charedi state. And the army was a perfectly Halachic army. And it was under attack by the surrounding murderous Arabs. And the Charedi soldiers were overwhelmed, they were dying, their businesses failing, their families breaking apart .. everything that’s happening today to the current soldiers. But the Dati Leumi refuse to join ranks for whatever reason (maybe they don’t want to be influenced by the Charedim). And the secular refuse to join a Halachic army because they don’t want to have to go minyan or eat kosher or have kiruv done to them. But the reason doesn’t matter… but because of that reason, the Charedim are the only ones serving and sacrificing for the safety of all of Klal Yisroel. Do you not think there would be that same anger and frustration? Would they not be offended by calls for achdus with their brothers who refuse to serve?
I think one of the main problems is a lack (or a refusal) of Charedim to understand the other side. To have genuine empathy. To be nosei be’ol chavero. I don’t know how many Charedim really put themselves in the shoes of what the soldiers are going through and how much pain they’re suffering. Maybe I’m wrong… But that’s the impression in getting.