some facts we can all agree on ( i have no affiliation w nasi & bh have 4 kids married )
the kind of analytical data you are asking for no one has
here is what we all see in the american yeshiva/litvish segment of klal yisroel
TRUE OR FALSE
1. a normal girl from a typical family can go six months without dating a boy thats even close
2 .any family that has had a boy & girl in shidduchim will tell u the volume of calls is SO DIFFERENT… (even if their daughter is a better catch)
3. there are many parents of daughters who are so drained from the process…just waiting for a neis
4. in yiddish they say “TZVEI TECHTER, NISHT KAYN GELECHTER” we are at a point that many have RED LIGHTS! (skip or no skip who is a kohen godol?)
5. many well meaning woman have made shidduch meetings , set up, brought in big shadchanim, pics, resumes, texts and calls much time & effort WITHOUT SUCCESS. ( yes hishtadlus, yes showed they care..but no home runs ( and even if a big whole day event made 2 shiduchim thats not a sustainable model despite the best of intentions)
now for the flip side
the wedding halls are booked solid
BMG is averaging 570 chasanim a year and each one has a kalla
the girls getting engaged are NOT only the ; rich or pretty or yichus ,functional families, big degrees ( although that helps on paper)
in fact they didnt do anything dif. than their classmates who are still waiting
so WHAT DID NASI DO?
THEY SCREAMED…..HELP es brent ah fire!!
they researched as best they could
they brought their findings to any rav or rosh who would listen
they encouraged the tzibur to look past their own needs and think of the bigger picture
is point 1 & 2 because boy gets resume first as opposed to chassidish where both sides get resume with same click of the mouse
to be continued…