Are, i think you’re making a fair bit of assumptions. Many people work among goyim and do not in any way associate with modern orthodoxy, to name an important example. If by contrast you mean they are not willing to date a boy who is single and learning full time for the same 20 years that they’ve been working… That’s more of an age issue, and they might not feel that they’re on the same wavelength, but many such people would be open to men who are in klei kodesh.
