Coffeeaddict – i definitely think you need a disclaimer there. While i havd been told from people involved in gitten that there are many who could work things out, there are also some very serious situations that are kept secret until the wedding is over. I have a co worker who was hit second day sheva brachos, a friend’s child who was told “we didn’t want to mention this til after the wedding…” and a few addiction situations that were hidden until the individual had no more opportunities to dissapear without notice for various reasons. Those situations may not be majority, they may even be few, but PLEASE don’t forget to throw in a disclaimer for the benefit of the “victim”.
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