Reply To: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah

To all who have posted………………

I posted this in sincerity. It is no secret that I live in small town New England and am not always up on the newest ways of doing things in town.
I couldn’t ask friends or relatives because as they know the name of the Kallah and her family.
This is the first of our grandchildren to get engaged and maybe there are new norms for grandparents. When our children got married their grandparents were honored guests, not hosts or sponsors.
But things change and this is a good sounding board with a cross section of frum Jews.

To be perfectly honest, we were given the wedding date to block out on our calendars. I have no idea where the wedding will be held in the Tristate area. I don’t need a lot of advance notice to plug the address into my GPS. I will show up wearing a suit and hat, Mrs. CTL will wear an appropriate dress after consulting with our daughter in law about colors, etc. We’ll be there on time and have a good time.

Thinking back, my Zaidy did pay for something at my brother’s wedding 49 years ago. Zaidy wanted Cigarettes and Cigars on the tables. My parents were not in favor of providing tobacco products. So Zaidy told the caterer to bill him the $300.