A) I post only under “Midwest2” and I do not have multiple personality disorder.
B) Thinking out loud – thank you for your list of what not to say to someone who has suffered a loss. It is an essential chessed to be sensitive to those who are suffering or bereaved, and even if we feel the need to make sense out of someone’s passing, we must not do it at the expense of hurting those mourning.
C. HKBH runs the universe. There is no such thing as an “untimely” death – only one that on human terms seems unreasonable. So what can we do? Our hishtadlus – good health habits, proper health care, all the things your doctor will tell you or that you can find on cdc.gov – and daven for arichas yomim.