Neither should ask. If they are frum, once they have decided that they want to get married, there is no toeles for them to talk to each other until after the wedding. They should from then go through the shadchan.
Neither should ask. If they are frum, once they have decided that they want to get married, there is no toeles for them to talk to each other until after the wedding. They should from then go through the shadchan.