Syag
I wasnt arguing this is the perfect example of “to eaCH their own” (regarding the posting vs non-posting).
“Lately it seems expressing different views, or differing views results in being called judgmental, not frum, negative etc. If I think women should have choice I’ll be a torah hater and a feminist.”
People act differently online and in real life this has both pluses (as some views that people may not feel comfortable expressing can be given a platform) and minuses (the real problem of cyber bullying)
It is important to take everything online with a heaping mound of salt. People arent who they say they are posters have claimed to be health professionals when they clearly arent, even genders arent always clear. thats why I find the expression ask your LOR strange. Nobody should ever take any real advice from a random online source whether medcial , halachic or personal. Most people know this but come here to bounce ideas of each other. And make no mistake, I have had fantastic discussions
I doubt anybody who feels like having children may not be for them goes to an online forum reads “It is an affront to Hashem, who is the One who decides whom to give children to.” and decides ok I guess Im going to go have as many children as I can. Joseph knows this too. It is part of his online persona though to throw in these “charedi sounding views” whenever he can. I doubt in person he would say the same if asked, as he may or may not be like “Joseph” in real life.
the same goes for name-calling “judgmental, not frum, negative etc. …torah hater and a feminist.” It is important to keep in mind the adage “On the Internet, nobody knows you’re a dog” which existed from the early days of the internet in 93 and is even more true today. That by know means makes it easy to ignore, and cyber-bullying is a real problem (not one that I have been innocent of) but it is important remember that the comments arent always real.