Sorry to hear DaMoshe. I can somewhat feel what you’re feeling.
Let yourself be helped! Don’t go to therapists. They are going to suck every penny out; with no help. You’re not in a situation where you need a listening ear, you need money. Talk to your family (they’re your friends) they feel for you. If mods allow, you can contact me via email. (I promise not to take a cent, perhaps I can help with your wifes medical issue). Hatzlucha Rabbah. May we all hear only bsiras tovas!