Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Lilmod, according to the Jewish Press, it’s actually a sin and not a mitzvah to assume the worst in someone. When we reach the heavenly court, we’ll be judged by Hash-m the way we judged others. If we assume the worse in others, we’ll be judged harshly. I’m saying this b/c you said “In terms of the baseball/video games example, that is the type of thing that really depends on the precise context -exactly what was said and how, and what your children are like, etc. It can be controlling or it might not be.” Even our Rabbi reluctantly admitted it wasn’t a bad thing I did & he actually agreed with me. After having no examples of abuse or controlling, he said he’s only goin by what my wife told him. Which really ticked me off that he’s forming all these negatives about me without vetting the charges or allowing me to weigh in. In summary, it’s not a heimishe thing to work so hard to try to find a negative about somone that just isn’t there. Thanks.