yeshivishhock – Decide if you are better off alone or with this guy who you know, and have much in common.
Chazal say “Tav L’meitan”, which means that women want to be married, and are better off being married.
I’ve heard there are two methods of dating, the Achashvairosh method, and the Bitachon method. The Achashvairosh method means that you check out everyone until you have everything you want, and the Bitachon method means that you look for the big things, and have Bitachon that the RBSO will care for the rest.
My red lines were Halacha, a supportive spouse and dedicated mother, able to stand up for herself mentally and intellectually, and not into Gashmius. I missed out on some things others would deem mandatory (ex. Kollel in EY for a few years), but it was well worth it. Your red lines may be different.
By saying he is a “great guy” means that you respect and like him. If I were you, I would do some self searching to see where my “red lines” were, and go out on a date (keeping informal contact is a horrid idea) and ask the tough questions. Otherwise even if you do marry someone else, you may always self-question.
Hatzlacha.